When we first meet someone, many of us put on rose-colored glasses and look past certain qualities, viewing them in a positive light. When we look at their work ethic, we see one thing while our parents see another. When we experience their temper, we often can dismiss it while our friends may not wave it off so easily.
This is how infatuation works, and it’s why we need to listen to outside advice. Studies show that infatuation literally shuts down your brain, and you aren’t thinking clearly. While you say, “But I’m in love,” everyone else says, “No, you’re just infatuated.” There’s a big difference, and it’s a huge red flag if your family or godly friends are against a relationship.
All throughout Proverbs, we read of a father instructing his son on how to live in this world. He laid out every piece of wise counsel he knew, and he pleaded with his son to take these lessons learned and show this discernment in his own life. Now being married and older, he could see clearly, and there were certain women he warned against—“Stay away from her!” He knew which women would cause his son to not only lose his honor but also his wealth and the fruit of his labor. If this son would grow up listening and really taking to heart his father’s words, he would surely experience a fountain of blessing. May we also listen to Solomon and the godly people in our own lives.
- Who are the godly people in your life that you should listen to when they give you advice or share wisdom?
- May this be our prayer today: “Lord, you are not a God of confusion, but a God of discernment. May I always seek your counsel when I’m unsure, because you give wisdom generously to all who ask you. Please clear up the things I’m not saying, and continue to lead me on.”
Avoid Immoral Women
1 My son, pay attention to my wisdom;
listen carefully to my wise counsel.
2 Then you will show discernment,
and your lips will express what you’ve learned.
3 For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey,
and her mouth is smoother than oil.
4 But in the end she is as bitter as poison,
as dangerous as a double-edged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death;
her steps lead straight to the grave.
6 For she cares nothing about the path to life.
She staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it.
7 So now, my sons, listen to me.
Never stray from what I am about to say:
8 Stay away from her!
Don’t go near the door of her house!
9 If you do, you will lose your honor
and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved.
10 Strangers will consume your wealth,
and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor.
11 In the end you will groan in anguish
when disease consumes your body.
12 You will say, “How I hated discipline!
If only I had not ignored all the warnings!
13 Oh, why didn’t I listen to my teachers?
Why didn’t I pay attention to my instructors?
14 I have come to the brink of utter ruin,
and now I must face public disgrace.”
15 Drink water from your own well—
share your love only with your wife.
16 Why spill the water of your springs in the streets,
having sex with just anyone?
17 You should reserve it for yourselves.
Never share it with strangers.
18 Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you.
Rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 She is a loving deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts satisfy you always.
May you always be captivated by her love.
20 Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral woman,
or fondle the breasts of a promiscuous woman?
21 For the LORD sees clearly what a man does,
examining every path he takes.
22 An evil man is held captive by his own sins;
they are ropes that catch and hold him.
23 He will die for lack of self-control;
he will be lost because of his great foolishness.